Valentine's Day may have different meanings. For some, it's time to exchange gifts and reaffirm affection, others take the opportunity to take stock of the relationship, and some think that the date is a great opportunity to spice up your sex life. One way of doing this is realizing that sexual fantasy dreamed by the partner.

In the definition of psychologist Giovanna Lucchesi, the Paulista Institute of Sexuality, sexual fantasy is the "ability of humans to think and dream has sexual situations that will cause excitement and emotion. The ability to fantasize has no limit and everything is permitted. " Not always these fantasies can be realized, but when there is that possibility, the experience can be very healthy for the couple.

There are sexual fantasies of all kinds, but some interpret the expression in its most literal sense. For these people, there's nothing more exciting than seeing your partner facing a character at the time of sex, and if it is dressed in character, even better. According to the manager of the shop fri Sexy Point, Maria do Carmo Silva, costume sales increase nearly 30% this time of year.

Couples who have used ensure that the erotic fantasies are a great way to get out of routine and spice up the relationship. Trade Representative Mary Magdalene da Silva, 44, is one that endorses this chorus. Married for 15 years, she spares no effort to innovate in bed, both in the closet having fantasies of nurse and schoolgirl. But she says that fantasy can often be at the head, not the dress. "You can embody a character only by way of speaking and gesturing. I've done that, I pretended to be a prostitute. "

Secretary Andrea Lara, 35, is also adept in the use of costumes. She says that, on a special occasion, as he dressed as a little devil for her husband. "He had traveled for four months, so I did a dinner and a surprise." The experience was so successful that she thinks of repeating the dose, and already have in mind what garment I would use: a woman's cat. "I think supersexy, the leather trousers with a boot and a mask. The person is just wondering what is underneath. " If you depend on the will of her husband, the choice will be different. "He always wanted to see me dressed as a Geisha."

They control

When in comes to embody a character, the women come out in front of men. Generally, they are willing to have that dress and act differently in bed. Some people argue that man, being more visually exciting to see it more a fantasy than a woman. This applies to the secretary Andrea Lara. She has used clothes for her husband, but said he did not know it would feel excited if he wore a fancy to her.

The psychologist says Giovanna Lucchesi is not so. For her, both men and women have the ability to fantasize about your partner, but there is a distorted view that man has a fertile imagination more than the woman. Moreover, they are inhibited by a prejudice that has both men and women themselves. "When a man sees another considered using an erotic fantasy for women, prejudicially he places another man's sexuality into question. Thus, he is unwilling to use the fantasies sexually attractive to your partner because you feel insecure belief that their partner will look for him with the same prejudiced eyes he sees the world, "says the psychologist.

Giovanna Lucchesi adds that the marketplace and media reinforce the idea that erotic fantasies are "woman thing". A journalism student Fernanda *, 25, agrees. With five different costumes in her closet, she says she never found anything interesting to use her boyfriend. "I've got to look up something to man, but found nothing nice. You pass in front of any shop fri and only sees things relating to women. "

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When the plan backfires

Cross-dressing a character to enhance the sex life can be very exciting for the couple, but there are cases where the sexy can become comical. It's like the joke that his wife bought a leather cover and a mask and was greeted by her husband with the words: "Hey Batman, where's dinner?".

The best way not to look ridiculous is to feel comfortable and confident in the role he is representing. According to psychologist Giovanna Lucchesi, "besides being the fantasy of their partnership, it must also be part of the fantasy of who uses it."

The student Fernanda has a strategy to be uninhibited. "The first few times I used costumes, was embarrassed, so I always drank a beer, wine or champagne," he says. Without exaggeration, not to spoil the night.

If, nonetheless, the game does not work, your best bet is to relax and laugh with your partner. "I had a customer who bought a little devil costume and could not do anything, laughing. But despite the laughter, she said she was one of the best nights of her life, "says Maria do Carmo Silva.